Bumper boats and go karts and mini golf, oh my!

I had to work the day after Thanksgiving which sucks but my boss is fairly cool so she came in two hours late and I got to leave two hours early. I was out of there before 1:30, woo hoo. The boyfriend didn't have to work, so I went by his place and we had some lunch and watched another episode of Heroes and then we went to play mini golf. I hadn't played mini golf in years, since I went to Catalina around 4 years ago I think. We played one game of that and I lost by one point, not too bad considering. Then we did the bumper boats, that was fun, we squished this kid in between our boats, ha. Then we did the go karts and that was awesome, I was zooming around the course, I have no fear when it comes to driving, I was passing people and scraping by along the wall, good times :)
I stayed over at his place Friday night and then we went to breaky Saturday morning, went back for a while then I finally came home. Last night I made dinner and he came over and we played Star Wars Monopoly, I won, yay! And he stayed over and left a little while ago. It's going really well I think, it's hard for me to know for sure, we all know my track record, but it seems to be going ok. And I don't get all het up and crazy which is a good thing.
Today I have no idea what I'm doing, I should go to Target but I hate shopping this time of year, it's crazy out there. Maybe I'll just go for a walk or something...

Happy Thanksgiving!

I have a lot to be thankful for! I am healthy this year which is huge. I am not in the midst of chemo like I was at this time last year. My friends and family are healthy and happy for the most part and love me. I still have a job, at least for now. Monkee is healthy and happy. I have a boyfriend :)
I hope all of you have a wonderful turkey day and spend it with people who make you happy. I wish for all of us a good ending to this year, and prosperity for everyone in the new year.
On a different note, my ex brother in law is an artist and is currently working for Marvel doing super hero cards and such. My boyfriend is really into comic books so I asked him who his fave super heroes were and he said Green Lantern & Spiderman. I am having the ex-BIL make him a card for each, full color, they are costing me $35 each. I thought they would be a cool xmas gift, and of course they will be one of a kind. What do y'all think, is that a cool idea?

Developments

Well I guess he is my boyfriend and guess what else, he's not moving in with his friend. So I guess I'll see how it progresses from here :)

Another one

And this is the guy, me, and my friend's John & Sheila

Pics from Mafia party

Here is a pic from the party last night:

This is the guy who went as the Pope from Godfather III and me of course :)

Par-tay!

I am going to a friend's birthday party in Altadena tonight (the really nice area, not the scary ghetto area) and I am taking the guy. I've met some of his friend's but he hasn't met any of mine. When I asked him on Thursday if he'd like to go, I didn't really expect him to say yes but he did, right away. Last night I went over to his place and we watched Heroes and ate turkey burgers he made, then had brownies and Ben & Jerry's ice cream (cheesecake brownie, really good), then I stayed over. So he has some mixer thing at UCLA today then he's coming over and we're going to the party. It's a Mafia themed party so I'm going to wear a black and white pin striped skirt with a black blouse and a black and white houndstooth fedora I have and he's going to dress up also. It s/b fun and I'll try to post some pics afterwards. Happy weekend everyone!

Mel was right

Or at least kind of. Last night my guy came over, he brought pizza and I made brownies and we watched My Name is Earl and the Office and 30 Rock and we were talking about the living situation. He and his friend went over to the landlords after work to talk to them about sharing the one house instead of renting both. Then they are walking back to their places and she tells him "actually, I am going to get some work from so-and-so, I may not even need to have a roommate". And he's like, why didn't she tell me that before we walked over there? I told him she's a flip-flopper, and maybe he should wait a bit on the moving in. Then he said "maybe you should be my roommate". And I actually said "well, that would be better", I can't really believe I'm even considering moving in with someone, I've lived alone for 5 1/2 years. But last night I also got a notice that a new company is going to be managing my building and the rent ALWAYS goes up when that happens which is lame and I don't want to pay more for my apartment, it's not worth it. He said he's going to tell her they should wait till at least the new year and I said, good, then we can see what's going on at that time. So... I don't know, maybe I could live with him. Not sure Monkee can live with his two cats, but I guess she'd get used to it. And that's what's new in the Land of Beanns.

Sheesh

So everything is going really well with the guy I'm dating, in fact he made me dinner last night and then we watched last week's Office online so we'd be prepared to watch this week's at my house tomorrow night. Then we watched some other weird show with that Doogie Howser guy online then watched Chasing Amy on DVD. Then we were messing around and that was fun and afterward we're laying in bed talking and he tells me that due to money being tight for him and his friend they are going to move in together and be roommates. Now that doesn't sound bad but here's the back story: this friend is a girl (not normally a problem for me) who is in online porn (I'm not judgemental so that's ok, but...) and my guy was at one time in one of her videos with her doing some oral testing if you know what I mean. So they have this history and I do believe him that they are just friends now, plus he's being very upfront about the whole thing, but still. He asked me if it was ok with me and how I felt about it, and I told him it was alright but of course I'm still kind of uncomfortable. How would you feel if you were in this position? Not that any of you would be because clearly my life is the stuff of soap operas and I don't know anyone else who has anything remotely as weird going on. The thing is, he's really nice, I like him a lot, it's not love by any means at the point, but it's comfortable and we have a lot of fun together and he's told me how much he likes me and how awesome I am multiple times, so I know he feels the same. I just am not sure how to feel about him being roommates with (BBW) porn girl.

Do I call him a boyfriend?

Hm, don't know yet. He still lists himself as single and so do I, but we are spending a lot of time together. Tuesday we went for our hike and hung out for like 12 hours, last night I made dinner at my house and he brought movies and would have stayed over except for the Sylmar fire which is pretty close to his place. Then this morning we went to breakfast and I'm going over to his house later. The sex has improved although we are still around 50% on his end. He's very generous and I always get mine but he's been having problems still. I did make sure he finished the other night (sorry if this is too graphic) but man it took a long time. Last night was fine, no problems at all. We get along really well, laugh at the same things, he liked my cooking yesterday... everything seems to be going well. And, I'm not all crazy nutso like normal, I'm actually really mellow about the whole thing. I just hope he can find a job so he doesn't have to move someplace crazy. And that I don't lose my job (in one way or another) and have to move.

After date wrap up

Ah, isn't dating fun? I mean, it is, I'm not really being sarcastic, it is fun but it's also challenging, or at least that's what I'm noticing. I had a really long date yesterday, he picked me up at around 12:30 and we went to the Rosebowl and tailgated until just before 3, then went in to the game, that lasted till 6 or so, then we tailgated some more with a group of his friends and had cookies and champagne (even though UCLA lost). His friends are nice and they were all really friendly which was cool. After everyone left it was still early so we picked up a movie and came back to my place to watch it. It was a scary one which he hates, but he watched it cuz I wanted to, that was sweet. I had to promise to protect him from it tho and of course I did ;)
Then we messed around and once again he acheived lift off which was v. good! And then I asked him if he wanted to stay over so he did and this morning we were messing around again and... no liftoff. He started off fine but somewhere along the way lost it. Not sure exactly why but he did lose his job on Friday and his ex was in town and he was going to have to see her this afternoon, so probably stress, anyway I hope it was stress. I know he had a really good time with me tho and I did with him too. On his facebook he did one of those Super Poke things and "cuddled up with me (and only me)" which I thought was sweet. Tuesday I am off for Veteran's Day (have to love those bank holidays!) and I suggested since he's not working that we go for a hike and I'll make a picnic lunch. That way we do something physical which is good and cheap which is also good. I hope he finds a job quickly because I know it sucks to be unemployed and especially in this economy.
Oh, and I saw a 2nd plastic surgeon on Friday, she also doesn't do the type I want so she's referring me to someone she said was very good. Hopefully I'll get that authorization within a week or two so I can go in and see him. I really want to try to get the surgery done by the end of this year so I don't have to worry about my insurance and all that as I may also not have a job soon after the new year, sigh... Keep your fingers crossed I get the auth quickly and that this guy works out!

Happy days are here again...

I've had a smile on my face most of the time for the last few days. And it's because there's hope again with Obama being our president elect. Hope for a better economy, for more oportunity for all Americans, not just a select few, for prosperity and happiness. Not that I expect poor Obama to give us all that but I just feel like that we are on a better path. Hope is wonderful :)

On another topic, I had a date tonight with my friend and this time the sex part was not a problem, yee hah! We both had a lot of fun at dinner, watched Earl and the Office and 30 Rock and then messed around. He's a nice guy, I like him. We are going to see a UCLA football game on Saturday, I haven't been to a live game in years, it s/b fun, we are tailgating first with his friends and then after having dessert and champagne apparently wether we win or not. I don't really care who wins, I don't follow these things, but since it's his alma mater I hope they win. They are playing the Oregon Beavers so there will be lots of naughty jokes flying I'm sure which will hopefully turn into naughty activities after we get home :)

Elections and erections

Ah, the election is tomorrow, how exciting is that?! I already voted via absentee ballot and I am going to a friend's to watch the election coverage with some like-minded folks. Some of the important (to me) things I voted for:
Obama for president!! Yay, go Obama!
No on Prop 8!! Get a life people and let other people marry who they wish!
No on Prop 4!! Just cuz you think abortion is wrong or you think you have a good relationship with your daughter so everyone should also have that kind of relationship doesn't make it so. If young women have to get parental permission some of them (hm, like Palin's daughter?) will not get to make the choice themselves.
Yes on Prop 2!! Animals should be able to run free at least some of the time, it's not natural or humane to put them in tiny cages where they can barely move much less run and play!

On to erections! I saw Zack & Miri Make a Porno on Saturday and it was hella funny! It was also quite dirty (in more ways than the obvious), so do not watch it with your kids. But I did laugh a lot and so did my date. Speaking of dates... I am only dating one guy now and we had gotten to the point where things move forward so Saturday after seeing Z & M and then watching Knocked Up at his house, we were messing around. And lemme tell ya, he's a giver, if you know what I mean! I whole heartedly approve of men who not only go downtown but like it there and hang out for a while. He was setting up camp and toasting marshmellows, he liked it so much, yay for me! But then it comes time for other activities and he couldn't sustain an... well you know. This has never happened during a first time for me, it was a bit awkward. It's not that he didn't find me attractive cuz I know he does. In fact we already have plans for Thursday. But what if it keeps happening? Have any of you had this problem with a new guy and if so, how did it work out? I like him a lot and we didn't make too big a deal out of it, but I am a little worried about next time.

Anywho, I am not sick anymore, I had a fun Halloween, was a devil, ate too much candy and watched a scary movie. Hope y'all had a fun one too!